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Child Psychology
Helping little people and their parents with big feelings and challenges. Young children can feel and express a lot of big feelings.
Adolescent Psychology
Not quite child & not yet adult, the Teen years are a time of identity development. We stand in the storm of change and transition with you.
Adult Psychology
From small steps to the bigger goals we are here to support and empower your mental health and wellbeing to live an effective life.
Welcome
The Centre for Effective Living is a Psychology and Wellbeing practice serving the Upper North Shore of Sydney. Located in Gordon, we provide a wide range of mental health and dietetic services for individuals, families and children. If you or someone you love is struggling with an emotional or mental health problem, call us now to make an appointment – and take the first step in getting the support you need.
An integrative, one stop service which includes psychology, dietetics, occupational therapy and couples and family counselling
Taking those first steps to see a Psychologist and Well Being professional can be daunting. At The Centre For Effective Living we take those steps with you. Psychologists and Dietitian to the Hornsby, Gordon and Upper North Shore community we are a group practice with a collective experience of over 50 years. We make sure you are matched with the right therapist for you.
e-Mental Health: Maximising Therapy Outcomes
An important aspect of therapy is applying what you learn or discover in your sessions to your day-to-day life. Research shows that this is the key to maximising the benefit of treatment, but many clients can come across barriers to implementing new skills. One way to address these barriers can be making the most of the e-Mental Health options available to help you integrate skills into your daily life. While there are many options available, it can be difficult to know which will work best for you. I’ve shared 5 of my favourite free applications below that you may find beneficial…
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Child in Distress?
For children, when their tidal wave of emotion crashes it seems to be full of unhelpful and challenging behaviour. It could be yelling, screaming, kicking, hitting, biting, name calling, pushing and the list goes on. However, what is often more concerning is when they talk about hurting themselves, dying or their own death.
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To Be A Teen With A Neuro-Developmental Disorder
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- Phone: 1800 832 588
- Fax: 02 8076 3508
Gordon Centre
Suite 2H, Level 2,
802-808 Pacific Highway
Gordon NSW 2072
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*** BEING MISUNDERSTOOD***
Did you happen to catch my Thursday Live Stream from my home office when I push to invent solutions for a world without burnout? I don't save them as ANYTHING can happen on these lives. As I genuinely lock myself up for a few hours, put on some music and *paint*, in a manner of speaking.
I let something out of the bag on one of these lives. I confessed one of my biggest fears. One of my children out of the blue asked me this same question the other day. "Mum, what's your biggest fear". Without blinking I said - being misunderstood. I guess I have thought about this before.
Today I went to the gym and found myself parallel on the floor doing crunches and then stretches with a complete stranger next to me. Man! They were a huffing and puffing and a grunting and spitting out of the effort they were putting in. I wasn't sure whether to be impressed by the sheer determination this person had, or to stop and offer them a drink!
While many thoughts crossed my mind about this scenario, the one that stuck finally was this. I don't know why this person was in training, why they were putting themselves through this in such a public place. And it is not my place to work it out or judge this either. Beyond judging this person - it is also somehow making leaps of assumptions about their motives, character and intention.
For many of us we are so often misunderstood. Particularly if there is a reason why we hide our private thoughts and feelings about a situation at hand. It can be so much easier to just stand down, re-direct our attention, or under-function.
When we do this, not only do we miss out on growing ourselves, we miss out on growing with others. We do not advance, we stagnate, and eventually retreat.
Perhaps for me being misunderstood is about not feeling validated, not having someone like me, and deep down inside, not having someone see the same thing I see when I look in the mirror, which is often more warts then I care to reveal. So being misunderstood feels like another heaping of warts. This type of personal doubt and vulnerability is not great for one's mental health or grit in the ring.
Yet, the root of the word understand is to stand among, to grasp meaning and clarity from within. So to be misunderstood I guess is to feel that someone has not had the chance to stand among, amidst and within your perspective, and vice versa.
So it takes conversations, the willingness to make time and space for these conversations. Once clarified, to be able to respectfully disagree, and choose your paths differently. To accept that sometimes that alignment may not come, once we have tried to look at the matter fairly and squarely. To hope without expectation that there could be a time to pick up the conversation again, and if not to let it go.
In this space, it is less about fearing being misunderstood. It would be pretty expected and normal! It provides an avenue to pick up the conversation and lean into it and see where it may lead....
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