Being A Confident Woman

by | Mar 11, 2022 | Psychology | 0 comments

Did you know that compared to men, women generally tend to underestimate their abilities, experience more self-doubt, and hesitate before making a decision, irrespective of their ability levels?

In therapy, I’ve noticed that one of the most common goals women have for themselves is to grow in their self-confidence. To become a woman who can own her strengths, who is willing to fail if it means that she has tried, and who has a peaceful sense of self-acceptance about who she is, flaws and all.

I’d like to share some thoughts about cultivating confidence in women, whether you are a woman yourself, or a parent raising a young woman.

Recently at our practice in Gordon, we’ve been inviting our team and the clients we see to add to our Garden of Resilience mural. The idea is that when we look back at our lives, we take stock of how personal strengths have emerged even through challenging and hard times. It’s an invitation to reflect on and share how we have grown, what we have gotten right, and in what ways we were pleasantly surprised about how we’ve coped. We’ve invited people to then write these reflections down on a coloured piece of paper shaped like a flower petal or leaf, and add it to the Garden of Resilience. As more people share their strengths with us, we get to watch the garden grow.

I wanted to share with you some of the strengths women on our team have shared so far.

“I am quite creative and good at problem solving. I am good at supporting people. I am resilient and adaptable. I am strong.”

“I am capable and instead of looking at all the things I can’t do, I’ve learnt to ask, ‘What else can I do?’”

“I’m proud of moving countries and coping well. I’m more resilient than I realised; I was surprised at how much support I had.”

Women, how you would answer the following questions?

When did you feel the most energised this past week? What strengths were you using then?

What are you most proud of about yourself?

Tell me about a time you faced a challenge head-on – what helped you to do that? What positive qualities did you show then?

How can you use what you are inherently good at in areas that you find challenging?