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A good leader chooses to be vulnerable

A good leader chooses to be vulnerable

With our national election this Saturday, the nation is thinking about leadership. However, leaders aren't just politicians or CEOs. You're a leader - and a good leader - if you see potential in others and try to develop it. Many of us may be leaders without realising it. So how does a leader lead...

Not all mothers celebrate  Mother’s Day

Not all mothers celebrate Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day and Realistic expectations. Out loud. It is not uncommon after Mother's Day each year for psychologists to hear from women heartbroken about their experience. Seemingly the entire country takes their mother out for a champagne brunch or serves her breakfast in bed. Or delivers sweet...

Procrastination

Procrastination

April.  Well into the full swing of another year, and the daily grind resumes. It is common for people to not feel particularly motivated, and procrastination could easily set in at this point. There may be many reasons behind procrastination, but in this article we focus on the management of...

Values Mind Map

Values Mind Map

I have found that most of my clients struggle to name the values that they think are important in their everyday lives. They also struggle to know how to make those values part of their goal-setting and decision-making. It is helpful to know what values we consider important because value-based...

Being A Confident Woman

Being A Confident Woman

Did you know that compared to men, women generally tend to underestimate their abilities, experience more self-doubt, and hesitate before making a decision, irrespective of their ability levels? In therapy, I’ve noticed that one of the most common goals women have for themselves is to grow in...

Keeping calm and safe during times of chaos

Keeping calm and safe during times of chaos

Lately it may feel as if unprecedented is the new precedent. Pandemics, floods and war are large-scale catastrophes, bringing the knowledge and experience of human suffering into our hearts and homes. Perhaps you have noticed a shift in your level of alertness (hyper-arousal), which is a normal...

Challenging Your Negative Thinking Principles…

Challenging Your Negative Thinking Principles…

"I definitely have negative thoughts, but I don't know what to do about them!" Perhaps this is something you've told yourself recently or identified after reading our blog on Identifying Faulty Thinking. Here is a helpful document with starter questions to challenge or reframe your thinking....

Why do I feel like an imposter?

Why do I feel like an imposter?

“I attribute my achievements to luck and external factors. I fear I might not live up to my expectations. I get stuck in spirals of self-doubt. I always write off my success. I have thoughts such as, ‘My accomplishments and ideas aren’t worthy of others’attention.’ ‘What gives me the right to be...

The Holiday Survival Guide

The Holiday Survival Guide

You step into your local supermarket, and notice that you are surrounded by millions of chocolates wrapped in green and red. Yes, it’s that time of the year again. This time of the year could bring great joy, as well as great stress, sometimes. Here are a few guides for keeping a good mental...

Why Perfectionism is Not Really Perfect

Why Perfectionism is Not Really Perfect

Perfectionism is an interesting idea. Many consider this term a compliment, some pride themselves of being a perfectionist, whilst some would even say that they wish they are a bit more of a perfectionist.  However, as a psychologist, I have to say that a huge chunk of my time is actually spent...

How to be OK with NOT being perfect

How to be OK with NOT being perfect

In my previous career, I spent many years focussing on error; of technique, resonance, intonation or phrasing. It was possible to rehearse endlessly, and difficult to decide when to stop. When was I finished? Sometimes all that attention to error made it difficult to enjoy music-making at all. And...

Rediscovering yourself in the midst of Depression

Rediscovering yourself in the midst of Depression

Those experiencing depression often express a sense of hopelessness or helplessness. Like no matter what direction they walk, whether they go under, over, around, or through different obstacles, nothing changes. Sometimes it can feel even worse! So what can we do when we’re stuck there? There is...

Is Acceptance the Key to Treating Sleep Problem?

Is Acceptance the Key to Treating Sleep Problem?

What happens when you find yourself having difficulty falling asleep, let’s say, by 2am in the morning? You’ve been trying to fall asleep for a few hours by this point. You can hear the clock ticking away, you can hear the dog snoring, your eyes wide open, perhaps your brain feels too active, and...

Take a mindfulness moment for your senses

Take a mindfulness moment for your senses

The re-entry into the post-lockdown world can be a daunting and exhausting task for some. I have noticed several clients speaking of their uncertainty about how to adjust to the outside world again. I certainly have noticed that my own social stamina is not what it used to be! Being mindful of our...

Sleep Hygiene Handout

Sleep Hygiene Handout

Many of our clients have asked how they can be preparing for lockdown ending. When we get to bed and when we get up is something we can control, and getting enough sleep has far-reaching benefits for our health and increases our capacity to face new challenges and experiences. Need a refresher on...

Re-entry anxiety post lockdown

Re-entry anxiety post lockdown

As we embrace the date for more freedoms in NSW, you may be detecting levels of apprehension about moving back out into the world. A phenomenon known as re-entry anxiety, or reverse culture shock, it is the experience of re-engaging in a formerly known existence after having a different experience...

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Festinger’s theory of cognitive dissonance refers to this internal discomfort. Festinger believed that the resulting discomfort and distress from such moments is too much for us to ignore, motivating us to take action to resolve it. Read more at: bit.ly/ActionsBeliefs#CognitiveDissonance #MentalHealth #Psychology ... See MoreSee Less
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Remember to applaud yourself for the things you’re able to accomplish each day, no matter how small the success. Be kind and compassionate to yourself.#Parenting #PostNatal #Depresison #Anxiety #Psychology ... See MoreSee Less
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Are you finding that you can't pull your mind away from worries? Practising mindfulness can provide a much needed pause in the busyness of your day. It can anchor your mind in the present moment, and cultivate an attitude of acceptance and compassion to stop the cycle of rumination. We've created three mindfulness exercises to help with this. We'd love to send them to you, so just fill in your name and email at the link in the comments. ... See MoreSee Less
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We all fail to meet our own expectations or follow our beliefs. Own this as a normal part of being human.#mistakes #failure #mentalhealth ... See MoreSee Less
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