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If you’re not sleeping well, it’s worth investigating why. -Wesley Macintyre #SelfCare #Burnout #Psychology ... See MoreSee Less

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6 days ago

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It is important that screen time does not interfere with the need for young people to have quality sleep, regular exercise, and opportunities for face-to-face interaction.-Katelyn Tasker #screentime #parenting #childpsychology ... See MoreSee Less

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Some personal reflections about body image and weight from Clinical Psychologist Valerie Ling.Yesterday on my FB feed, a friend posted some mock up pictures of Marvel heroes if they looked their age. With facial creases and a little rounder in size. I have to say, I am a big Marvel fan, but I liked the mock ups better. They were believable, approachable even. Perhaps looking their age gave them a certain life wisdom to add to their "powers". I recently had a professional shoot done and I have "hidden" away a few of the photos for personal remembering. Here's one that I have mixed feelings about. Not because of the photographer's skills, but because of some things I'd rather hide.Just look at the photo for a moment. This is probably how I look to most people. It captures a posture and a look that is typical if I wasn't posing. I look my age. I am probably thinking about something. I tend to think a lot.However, it exposes my arms, and in particular a scar I have on my right arm. *Just typing that brought a spike of anxiety*I am told that the scar comes from an injection I got as a child that spread weirdly. For the most part of my life, I rarely wore anything that exposed my arms. As a young child, around age 10, I started to restrict my eating. In my last year of primary school I barely ate, blacked out most of my waking hours, exercised excessively and measured and weighed my body daily. Then the exposure of my arms revealed more than a physical scar. It told of my growing dissatisfaction with my weight.Yesterday, I realised that my wardrobe consists mainly of sleeveless things for casual wear. I realised that it has been quite a while since I covered my arms with anything. In fact, as I am writing this I am wearing a sleeveless dress. What changed?Making peace with my body. Being grateful for the everyday things my body does. Strong arms that have carried babies, both mine and friends. Arms that can swing, sway, box, gesture. Realising clothes and sizes are SO relative. Working out that some styles simply aren't reflective of my own tastes and preferences. Feeling the way my body rests, rejoices, recovers, relates.It's still an uphill journey. I lose my way many times making my body the enemy and being ashamed of it. Gentle voices from friends, family, counsellors, and my own voice of wisdom and counsel help to stay the brutal force I can deliver to my body.For today, it's a reconciled day. It's pretty hot, and it's nice to feel a little breeze on my arms. #selfcompassionjourney #bodyimage #connection ... See MoreSee Less

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7 days ago

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Practice self compassion. You are going to feel this way in your work every now and again, this does not make you a failure. #workplace #anxiety #psychology ... See MoreSee Less

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