Developing Resilience

by | Oct 28, 2019 | Anxiety, Burnout, Children, Depression, Mindfulness | 0 comments

When meeting children and parents, a common goal that parents mention is wanting their child to develop more resilience. It is an excellent goal to have, however it is also important to acknowledge that developing resilience is an ongoing and individual process. This means your child will need consistent input and guidance as they face challenges over time.

So why does developing resilience require so much time and effort? Well it’s in the definition. Resilience is the skill of ‘bouncing back’ from difficult experiences, adapting in the face of adversity. As resilience is not a trait that your child is born with, but a skill involving management of behaviours, thoughts, and emotions in the midst of challenges, that is learned – effort and practice over time are required.

How can you help your child practice resilience?

  1. Help your child make connections. Having supportive and caring relationships that create love and trust, and that provide role models, encouragement and reassurance both within and outside the family contribute to resilience.
  2. Let your child make mistakes. Unfortunately, to bounce back your child must first fall down. To develop resilience they must experience failure, mistakes, and challenges. During these times praise the strategies they use, efforts they make and personal strengths they demonstrate.
  3. Teach them to manage strong emotions. Showing resilience does not mean that your child will not experience pain, frustration, anxiety, or sadness. Stress, adversity and challenge bring out these emotions in everyone and that is okay. Help your child learn helpful, adaptive ways to manage and communicate them.
  4. Teach them to problem solve. Rather than rushing in to fix the problem for your child or telling them what to do, Work alongside your child to brainstorm solutions to address the challenge and possible consequences of each. Help them take action on one of their solutions.

The following website has some useful and child friendly resources, as well as a helpful blog:

If you are concerned about your child, remember to seek professional help from your General Practitioner,
Counsellor, or Psychologist.