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*** BEING MISUNDERSTOOD***
Did you happen to catch my Thursday Live Stream from my home office when I push to invent solutions for a world without burnout? I don't save them as ANYTHING can happen on these lives. As I genuinely lock myself up for a few hours, put on some music and *paint*, in a manner of speaking.
I let something out of the bag on one of these lives. I confessed one of my biggest fears. One of my children out of the blue asked me this same question the other day. "Mum, what's your biggest fear". Without blinking I said - being misunderstood. I guess I have thought about this before.
Today I went to the gym and found myself parallel on the floor doing crunches and then stretches with a complete stranger next to me. Man! They were a huffing and puffing and a grunting and spitting out of the effort they were putting in. I wasn't sure whether to be impressed by the sheer determination this person had, or to stop and offer them a drink!
While many thoughts crossed my mind about this scenario, the one that stuck finally was this. I don't know why this person was in training, why they were putting themselves through this in such a public place. And it is not my place to work it out or judge this either. Beyond judging this person - it is also somehow making leaps of assumptions about their motives, character and intention.
For many of us we are so often misunderstood. Particularly if there is a reason why we hide our private thoughts and feelings about a situation at hand. It can be so much easier to just stand down, re-direct our attention, or under-function.
When we do this, not only do we miss out on growing ourselves, we miss out on growing with others. We do not advance, we stagnate, and eventually retreat.
Perhaps for me being misunderstood is about not feeling validated, not having someone like me, and deep down inside, not having someone see the same thing I see when I look in the mirror, which is often more warts then I care to reveal. So being misunderstood feels like another heaping of warts. This type of personal doubt and vulnerability is not great for one's mental health or grit in the ring.
Yet, the root of the word understand is to stand among, to grasp meaning and clarity from within. So to be misunderstood I guess is to feel that someone has not had the chance to stand among, amidst and within your perspective, and vice versa.
So it takes conversations, the willingness to make time and space for these conversations. Once clarified, to be able to respectfully disagree, and choose your paths differently. To accept that sometimes that alignment may not come, once we have tried to look at the matter fairly and squarely. To hope without expectation that there could be a time to pick up the conversation again, and if not to let it go.
In this space, it is less about fearing being misunderstood. It would be pretty expected and normal! It provides an avenue to pick up the conversation and lean into it and see where it may lead....
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